إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ لِلْإِنسَانِ عَدُوٌّ مُّبِينٌ
Indeed Satan, to man, is a manifest enemy. (Surah Yusuf 12:5)
The devil is clear open enemy to us. He has, from day one, made his intentions clear. The devil's plan is not a secret-- the jealousy, assumption, animosity, lust, greed arrogance, forgetfulness, pride-- is made known in the Quran by Allah.
Today the devil's game is jealousy, but tomorrow, might be lust, after that it might be greed, after that it might be arrogance, after it might be forgetfulness. He will use different kind of games. Whether he comes at you from the right, left, center, top, bottom, it doesn't matter.The devil is the real enemy.
It is the devil you should developed hatred for, not humans--like your parents, siblings, children, spouse..
So long as the human being is breathing, there is hope that they can recognize the plot of the devil, shun the devil and turn back to Allah.They still have that opportunity.
So if you hate people, it is as if you condemn them when you should have condemned the devil.
No family is immuned from complications. Allah will not give you and me a normal family. There will be somebody who struggle. That's just how He made us. Allah decided you are going to be around certain people in your life, and they are going to be your trial and you are going to be theirs. You are tied to them for life--your family.
So, we have to let go of the idea of some kind of a life that none of the people in our lives is going to be a source of difficulty. And we also have to let go of the idea that people who are a source of our difficulty are somehow the devil. They are not. They may have failed to recognize the devil's animosity towards them. All we can say they failed to recognize that the devil was able to use them successfully. When they are not able to let go of their pride, ill-conceived notion...then they are struggling with the shaytan animosity towards the children of Adam.
Who better than a prophet (prophet Ya'qub) to know that his children has a shaytan problem, yet he is helpless. Because every human being has to take his own steps. You and me coming from a good family doesn't ensure that we are free from the shaytan's trap.
And Allah knows best.
