بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
Sometimes you are "stuck" in a marriage where it seems that everything you do for your spouse was never good enough. There was always something wrong with you. Know that some people see things in terms of the cup is half empty rather than the cup is half full. This could be the underlying problem.
Read this story. It was passed down from an old grandmother to her granddaughter and to me--a real story. Perhaps you have heard this story but good to hear it again. InshaAllah it is of benefit.
A lady was married to someone she didn't love. She did everything to keep him away from her but he was patient. One day, she burned the rice dish on purpose and served it to her husband. She expected her husband to be angry but her husband said, "what an aromatic rice this is!" and he ate the rice. The next day she cooked the rice with a lot of water until it became soupy and served it to her husband. The husband said, "hmm, this rice is easy to swallow!" and swallowed it. The next day she served him with a half way cooked rice. "hmm, this will fill me up for a while!" and he ate it. With that the wife realized that her husband is a good man and stayed with him, and they had many children together.
It is very rare to find a "perfect wife" or a "perfect husband." And remember, you married your spouse. So you have to work a little harder to keep your marriage especially if you have children (unless it is for certain that it is more detrimental for your children to stay--typically when there is constant abuse.) One wise man said, the chances of finding a better spouse than the one you have is 1 out of 3. The other 2 could be the same or worse. So if you don't want to risk getting a spouse who is worse than the one you have, you have no choice but to be patient. Find all the excuses in the world for your spouse whether you love your spouse or not, whether you think your spouse is good or not. You will come out the happy one. Always ask Allah to help you and your spouse. Allah will make a way out of the situation for you. InshaAllah.
May Allah grant us peace and tranquility. Ameen. Please don't forget us in your night prayers. Jazakallahu khairan.
And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam
