بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
It is not for everyone to give advice (naseeha) on religious matters, even if you think you know abut the matter.
First and foremost, your intention must be correct--you are doing it to seek the pleasure of Allah Almighty. Only such an intention deserves reward from Allah and His acceptance. If the intention is other than for the sake of Allah, then you deserve the anger and wrath of Allah, not to mention the hatred and rejection of the person to whom the advice was given.
You must have a sincere concern for that person. A believer loves for his brother what he loves for himself. The Prophet, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said:
The naseeha is given to guide the person toward goodness, and take him away from harm. Advice is best given in private, indirectly, and in a positive manner that focuses on the next steps—not on what has already happened.
Ibn Rajab wrote: When the righteous predecessors intended to give naseehah to someone, they admonished him privately, to the point that some of them said, 'The one who exhorts his brother between him and himself, then it is naseeha. The one who exhorts him in front of people, then is merely scolding.'
The sincere advisor should not aid the Shaytan over his brother by publicly rebuking him and letting Shaytan beguile his brother into not taking the naseeha. Every persons love be treated with respect and honor.
A sincere advisor must be kind, soft and well mannered in giving the naseeha to others. Naseeha is like opening a door and that door will not be opened without the proper key. There is no better key to unlock the heart that is locked than kindness in giving advice, gentleness in exhortation and softness in speech.
The Prophet, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said:
Giving naseeha is a a sign of true brotherhood, a way of bringing the hearts closer, and of closing the doors of hatred and suspicion. When someone mentioned your faults try not to be apprehensive--The person may know something that perhaps you are unaware of, and is compelled to tell you about it out of sheer compassion.
By pointing out each other's faults, we help to keep each other from destruction. May Allah grant us tawfiq to the highest station. Ameen.
Pleased include us in your du'as. Jazakallahu khairan.
And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
It is not for everyone to give advice (naseeha) on religious matters, even if you think you know abut the matter.
First and foremost, your intention must be correct--you are doing it to seek the pleasure of Allah Almighty. Only such an intention deserves reward from Allah and His acceptance. If the intention is other than for the sake of Allah, then you deserve the anger and wrath of Allah, not to mention the hatred and rejection of the person to whom the advice was given.
You must have a sincere concern for that person. A believer loves for his brother what he loves for himself. The Prophet, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said:
None of you will truly believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself.[Bukhari]
The naseeha is given to guide the person toward goodness, and take him away from harm. Advice is best given in private, indirectly, and in a positive manner that focuses on the next steps—not on what has already happened.
Ibn Rajab wrote: When the righteous predecessors intended to give naseehah to someone, they admonished him privately, to the point that some of them said, 'The one who exhorts his brother between him and himself, then it is naseeha. The one who exhorts him in front of people, then is merely scolding.'
The sincere advisor should not aid the Shaytan over his brother by publicly rebuking him and letting Shaytan beguile his brother into not taking the naseeha. Every persons love be treated with respect and honor.
A sincere advisor must be kind, soft and well mannered in giving the naseeha to others. Naseeha is like opening a door and that door will not be opened without the proper key. There is no better key to unlock the heart that is locked than kindness in giving advice, gentleness in exhortation and softness in speech.
The Prophet, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said:
Kindness is not to be found in anything but that adds to its beauty, and it is not withdrawn from anything but it makes it defective.[Muslim]
Giving naseeha is a a sign of true brotherhood, a way of bringing the hearts closer, and of closing the doors of hatred and suspicion. When someone mentioned your faults try not to be apprehensive--The person may know something that perhaps you are unaware of, and is compelled to tell you about it out of sheer compassion.
By pointing out each other's faults, we help to keep each other from destruction. May Allah grant us tawfiq to the highest station. Ameen.
Pleased include us in your du'as. Jazakallahu khairan.
And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam
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