Your Children Are Watching

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate

Assalaamu alaykum

Dear Friends

I pray that you are well.

Good companions are of the utmost importance in our lives.

If you sleep with the dogs, don’t be surprised if you wake up with the fleas. When you sit with People of the Dunya (world), you become a drop in their ocean, but when you sit with People of the Akhirah (Hereafter), the dunya becomes a drop in your ocean. These are some of the words of wisdom from many scholars.

The Prophet, Allah bless him and grant him peace, explained to us this matter of good companionship. He, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said:

A person is upon the religion of his khaleel (close friend), so look to whom you befriend.

[Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi]

Do not keep company except with a believer, and do not feed except a person who has taqwa (fear of Allah).

[Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi]

There are times we have to sacrifice our own friendships (and even our marriage) for the sake of Allah.

Don't feel sad that you no longer have that best shopping buddy or tea buddy of yours when all you do with each other were just that--shopping or sharing a cup of tea, while their children are not raised as Muslims because at some point their children are going to start influencing your children.

Choose your friends wisely. Your children too are watching what you do.

Allah Almighty says,

يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ قُوٓا۟ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا ٱلنَّاسُ وَٱلْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَـٰٓئِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ ٱللَّـهَ مَآ أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ ﴿٦

O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.

[Qur'an At-Tahrim 66:6]

If your friends are of the righteous, they will pull you towards what is good and encourage you to do what is pleasing to Allah, that which will take you to Paradise, by the Mercy of Allah. If your friends are of those who are heedless of Allah, they will pull you towards what is bad and encourage you to do what is pleasing to Shaytan, that which can lead you to the Hellfire.

May Allah grant us righteous companions and help us raise our children well and save us from the Hellfire. Ameen.

Please don't forget us in your night prayers. Jazakallahu khairan.

And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam