بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Be careful with your tongue. The harms that can come from the tongue can destroy friendships, marriages, communities, nations and even a person’s Islam.
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the people are safe, and the believer is the one from whom the people's lives and wealth are safe." [An-Nasa'i]
The tongue is in a wet place and it can easily slip. If you are not careful walking on a wet floor, you will slip and fall, and it may be hard to regain your posture but eventually you can stand back up, but if your tongue slipped, it could plunge you into the Hellfire. You must use your tongue with extreme caution.
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and grant him peace) was asked about the deed which will be foremost to lead a man to Jannah (Paradise). He replied, "Fear of Allah and the good conduct." Then he was asked about indulgence which will admit a man to Hell (Fire) and he answered, "The tongue and the genitals." [At-Tirmidhi]
The Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said to Muadh ibn Jabal,..
“Shall I not inform you of the head of the matter, its pillar and its peak?” I said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah.” He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “The head of the matter is Islam, its pillar is the prayer and its peak is jihad.” Then he (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Shall I not tell you of the foundation of all of that?” I said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah.” So he took hold of his tongue and said, “Restrain this.” I said, “O Prophet of Allah, will we be taken to account for what we say with it?” He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “May your mother be bereaved of you, O Muadh! Is there anything that throws people into the Hellfire upon their faces — or: on their noses — except the harvests of their tongues?” [at-Tirmidhi]
When you start talking about people, you could be entering into the dangerous zone of backbiting. Backbiting is one of the vices of the tongue, which is sinful, and may also cause you to be bankrupt in the Day of Judgment, if the person you have backbitten didn't forgive you in this life.
Backbiting is to mention the negative points of a specific person known to you, or to imitate them or communicate them with signals or through writing, in a way of insult and hatred.
The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) was asked, "What is backbiting?" He said, "Mentioning your brother with what he detests." He asked, "Have you considered if what I say is really in him?" He answered, "If what you say is in him then you have backbitten him, and if what you say is not in him then you have calumniated/slandered him." [Tirmidhi]
Nawawi writes, “Slander (ghiba) means to mention anything concerning a person that he would dislike, whether about his body, religion, everyday life, self, disposition, property, son, father, wife, servant, turban, garment, gait, movements, smiling, dissoluteness, frowning, cheerfulness, or anything else connected with him.”
Tale bearing (carrying and telling tales) spreads all sorts of hurtful information around, and shaytan uses such information to try to hinder and tear down good works.
Allah Almighty says
This Makkan Surah condemns all sorts of scandal, backbiting, and selfish hoarding of wealth, as destroying the hearts and affections of men. Backbiting is one of the three vices condemned in the strongest terms in this Surah.
A victim of slander, backbite, spying, or tale bearing is truly an oppressed person.
Would anyone like to eat the flesh of his dead brother?
Allah Most High says,
And He Most High says,
Hudhaifah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “A slanderer will not enter the Garden.” [Bukhari & Muslim]
Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) passed by two graves and said, “They are being punished and not for anything very great. One of them did not guard himself from urine and the other was involved in backbiting.” [Bukhari & Muslim]
Imam Nawawi said, “Slander and tale bearing are two of the ugliest and most frequently met with qualities among men, few people being safe from them… Every legally responsible person should refrain from saying anything except when there is a clear advantage to speaking.”
The scholars say there is nothing like safety. Therefore, one should remember the words of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace), “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, let him say the good or remain silent.” [Bukhari & Muslim]
If you are in a gathering of backbiting, you are not free of backbiting even if you are only a listener, except by condemning it with your tongue; if you fear actual harm, then you condemn it in your heart. If you are able to stand up or change the topic then you must.
If people have backbitten you, you shouldn't be spying on them for proof of backbiting. Why? Because, spying of them is busying yourself with what does not concern you. If you are so concerned about it, it shows that you really care about what people think. You shouldn't be too concerned about what people think of you. Our concern should be Allah alone, our standing with Him, and our next life to come.
Remember, if people backbite you, that is giving you reward, meaning your next life is benefiting by people backbiting you.
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said: "Part of the perfection of one's Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him." [Tirmidhi]
May Allah help us preserve our tongues from vices and protect us from the evil of the tongue of others. Ameen.
Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'ala aalihi wa sahbihi wasallam.
And Allah knows best and is Most Wise, and He alone grants success, and to Him is the final return of all.
Wassalaam
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Be careful with your tongue. The harms that can come from the tongue can destroy friendships, marriages, communities, nations and even a person’s Islam.
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the people are safe, and the believer is the one from whom the people's lives and wealth are safe." [An-Nasa'i]
The tongue is in a wet place and it can easily slip. If you are not careful walking on a wet floor, you will slip and fall, and it may be hard to regain your posture but eventually you can stand back up, but if your tongue slipped, it could plunge you into the Hellfire. You must use your tongue with extreme caution.
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and grant him peace) was asked about the deed which will be foremost to lead a man to Jannah (Paradise). He replied, "Fear of Allah and the good conduct." Then he was asked about indulgence which will admit a man to Hell (Fire) and he answered, "The tongue and the genitals." [At-Tirmidhi]
The Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said to Muadh ibn Jabal,..
“Shall I not inform you of the head of the matter, its pillar and its peak?” I said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah.” He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “The head of the matter is Islam, its pillar is the prayer and its peak is jihad.” Then he (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Shall I not tell you of the foundation of all of that?” I said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah.” So he took hold of his tongue and said, “Restrain this.” I said, “O Prophet of Allah, will we be taken to account for what we say with it?” He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “May your mother be bereaved of you, O Muadh! Is there anything that throws people into the Hellfire upon their faces — or: on their noses — except the harvests of their tongues?” [at-Tirmidhi]
When you start talking about people, you could be entering into the dangerous zone of backbiting. Backbiting is one of the vices of the tongue, which is sinful, and may also cause you to be bankrupt in the Day of Judgment, if the person you have backbitten didn't forgive you in this life.
Backbiting is to mention the negative points of a specific person known to you, or to imitate them or communicate them with signals or through writing, in a way of insult and hatred.
The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) was asked, "What is backbiting?" He said, "Mentioning your brother with what he detests." He asked, "Have you considered if what I say is really in him?" He answered, "If what you say is in him then you have backbitten him, and if what you say is not in him then you have calumniated/slandered him." [Tirmidhi]
Nawawi writes, “Slander (ghiba) means to mention anything concerning a person that he would dislike, whether about his body, religion, everyday life, self, disposition, property, son, father, wife, servant, turban, garment, gait, movements, smiling, dissoluteness, frowning, cheerfulness, or anything else connected with him.”
Tale bearing (carrying and telling tales) spreads all sorts of hurtful information around, and shaytan uses such information to try to hinder and tear down good works.
Allah Almighty says
وَيْلٌ لِّكُلِّ هُمَزَةٍ لُّمَزَةٍ ﴿١﴾ الَّذِي جَمَعَ مَالًا وَعَدَّدَهُ ﴿٢﴾ يَحْسَبُ أَنَّ مَالَهُ أَخْلَدَهُ ﴿٣﴾ كَلَّا ۖ لَيُنبَذَنَّ فِي الْحُطَمَةِ ﴿٤﴾ وَمَا أَدْرَاكَ مَا الْحُطَمَةُ ﴿٥﴾ نَارُ اللَّـهِ الْمُوقَدَةُ ﴿٦﴾ الَّتِي تَطَّلِعُ عَلَى الْأَفْئِدَةِ ﴿٧﴾ إِنَّهَا عَلَيْهِم مُّؤْصَدَةٌ ﴿٨﴾ فِي عَمَدٍ مُّمَدَّدَةٍ ﴿٩[Qur'an, Al-Humazah 104:1-9]
Woe unto every backbiter, slanderer, (1) who has gathered riches and counted them over (2) thinking his riches have made him immortal! (3) No indeed; he shall be thrust into the Crusher; (4) and what shall teach thee what is the Crusher; (5) The Fire of God kindled (6) roaring over the hearts (7) covered down upon them, (8) in columns outstretched. (9)
This Makkan Surah condemns all sorts of scandal, backbiting, and selfish hoarding of wealth, as destroying the hearts and affections of men. Backbiting is one of the three vices condemned in the strongest terms in this Surah.
A victim of slander, backbite, spying, or tale bearing is truly an oppressed person.
Would anyone like to eat the flesh of his dead brother?
Allah Most High says,
يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱجْتَنِبُوا۟ كَثِيرًا مِّنَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا۟ وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ ﴿١٢[Qur’an, Al-Hujurat 49:12]
O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful. (12)
And He Most High says,
وَيْلٌ لِّكُلِّ هُمَزَةٍ لُّمَزَةٍ ﴿١[Qur’an, Al-Humazah 104:1]
Woe to whoever disparages others behind their back or to their face.
Hudhaifah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “A slanderer will not enter the Garden.” [Bukhari & Muslim]
Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) passed by two graves and said, “They are being punished and not for anything very great. One of them did not guard himself from urine and the other was involved in backbiting.” [Bukhari & Muslim]
Imam Nawawi said, “Slander and tale bearing are two of the ugliest and most frequently met with qualities among men, few people being safe from them… Every legally responsible person should refrain from saying anything except when there is a clear advantage to speaking.”
The scholars say there is nothing like safety. Therefore, one should remember the words of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace), “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, let him say the good or remain silent.” [Bukhari & Muslim]
If you are in a gathering of backbiting, you are not free of backbiting even if you are only a listener, except by condemning it with your tongue; if you fear actual harm, then you condemn it in your heart. If you are able to stand up or change the topic then you must.
If people have backbitten you, you shouldn't be spying on them for proof of backbiting. Why? Because, spying of them is busying yourself with what does not concern you. If you are so concerned about it, it shows that you really care about what people think. You shouldn't be too concerned about what people think of you. Our concern should be Allah alone, our standing with Him, and our next life to come.
Remember, if people backbite you, that is giving you reward, meaning your next life is benefiting by people backbiting you.
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said: "Part of the perfection of one's Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him." [Tirmidhi]
May Allah help us preserve our tongues from vices and protect us from the evil of the tongue of others. Ameen.
Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'ala aalihi wa sahbihi wasallam.
And Allah knows best and is Most Wise, and He alone grants success, and to Him is the final return of all.
Wassalaam
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