In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
The worst limit of evil treatment of children was what was practiced in the days of Jahiliyyah (ignorance) when they were killed or buried alive. When Islam came to the Arabian Peninsula, this was stopped.
It is obvious that the crime of killing children and that it is a grave sin. But a little thought would prove that the failure to give proper education and training to children as a result of which they remain uninformed or heedless to Allah, His Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) and the concern for the Hereafter and fall into immoral and shameless life patterns alien to Islam, then, this attitude too, shall be no less than killing of children.
The Qur'an calls a person who does not know Allah and does not obey Him a dead person.
أَوَمَن كَانَ مَيْتًا فَأَحْيَيْنَـٰهُ وَجَعَلْنَا لَهُۥ نُورًۭا يَمْشِى بِهِۦ فِى ٱلنَّاسِ كَمَن مَّثَلُهُۥ فِى ٱلظُّلُمَـٰتِ لَيْسَ بِخَارِجٍ مِّنْهَا ۚ كَذَٰلِكَ زُيِّنَ لِلْكَـٰفِرِينَ مَا كَانُوا۟ يَعْمَلُونَ ﴿١٢٢[Qur'an, An-'Aam 6:122]
And is one who was dead and We gave him life and made for him light by which to walk among the people like one who is in darkness, never to emerge therefrom? Thus it has been made pleasing to the disbelievers that which they were doing. (122)
People who do not attend to the grooming of the deeds and morals of their children, leave them open and free (to be hunted by aggressive influences around them, influences which is an 'open season' in our time), leave them in front of the screens (TV, electronics, computer) all day to watch useless shows and playing useless games, bury them with gadgets to listen to useless music, or let them go through a system of education as a result of which Islamic morals are ruined, then, they too, in a way, are liable to be charged with the crime of killing their children - for formal killing only ruins what is one's transitory life in the mortal world, but this type of killing ruins what is one's eternal life in the 'akhirah (Hereafter), a terrible loss indeed.
Allah Almighty says,
ا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ اللَّـهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ ﴿٦﴾ يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا لَا تَعْتَذِرُوا الْيَوْمَ ۖ إِنَّمَا تُجْزَوْنَ مَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ ﴿٧[Qur'an At-Tahrim 66:6-7]
O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded. (6) O you who have disbelieved, make no excuses that Day. You will only be recompensed for what you used to do. (7)
The Prophet, Allah bless him and grant him peace, one day he stood on the pulpit of masjid warning people of Hellfire. The narrator of the hadith said the people in the market place could hear him in the masjid repeating the warning over and over again!
It is the duty of parents to protect their children from the Fire of Hell by teaching them Allah’s commands and prohibitions and Islamic manners (adab). It is the right of children to be brought up in accordance with the guidelines of Islam.
In the Day of Judgment everybody will come after those people that are owed rights to them. Parents who did not fulfill the rights of their children will run away from their children, trying to save themselves from the consequences of this reality.
Allah Almighty says,
يَوْمَ يَفِرُّ ٱلْمَرْءُ مِنْ أَخِيهِ ﴿٣٤﴾ وَأُمِّهِۦ وَأَبِيهِ ﴿٣٥﴾ وَصَـٰحِبَتِهِۦ وَبَنِيهِ ﴿٣٦[Qur'an Abasa 80:34-36]
On the Day a man will flee from his brother (34) And his mother and his father (35) And his wife and his children, (36)
Parents should strive to cultivate in their children's hearts a deep love and respect for the Deen (religion of Islam) so that it is the central part of their adult life. And when they are confronted with choices, they can clearly tell the difference between right and wrong and inshaAllah act accordingly.
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wassallam said: “Act upon the obedience to Allah and avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and order your children to abide by the commandments of Allah and to avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and by that you protect yourselves and them from the Hellfire.”
"For a man to teach his child good adab (manners) is better than giving a sa (2 liters) of grain in charity."
"No father can give his child anything better than good manners." [Tirmidhi]
"Whoever desires to spite the jealous one, should teach his child good adab." Who is jealous of us? The Shaytan and his followers.
The best of you is he who has learned the Qur'an and then taught it." [Bukhari]
Teach your children Qur'an from early age. The first step is to make sure they can read the Qur'an properly and start memorizing. Find a good teacher for them. If you are an adult, you need to do this too, so you can teach your children and be their model in this respect.
It is a well known fact that children do as parents do, not necessarily what they say. Children develop behaviors through observing their parents in day-to-day life. Therefore, every behavior a parent engages in should be worthy of imitating because children will imitate it.
May Allah enable us to raise our children as good and productive Muslims and save us and our families from the Hellfire. Ameen.
Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'ala aalihi wa sahbihin wassallam
Please don't forget us in your night prayers. Jazakallahu khairan.
And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam
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