بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
No matter how good things get there are people who still only see the bad – and they go to great lengths to point it out to everyone around them. These are the complainers. A lot of people don't realize they are complainers. Complainers are complainers. You cannot cheer them up, you cannot suggest them solutions, you cannot ask them to pull themselves together, you cannot complain about them, you cannot complain along with them, you cannot ignore them, you cannot confront them. So what do you do? You sincerely say, "You know that sounds terrible. I don't know how you deal with all these problems!" You will find them say, "Well, it's really not that bad!" Remember, don’t be sarcastic when you say it. Be sincere.You don’t have to agree that these are huge problems. Even if everything the complainer says sounds trivial to you, remember that it feels like a huge problem to them or they wouldn’t go on about it. What seems trivial to one person can be a huge problem for others.
For the complainers, you need to learn to look at yourself in the mirror in a humble fashion. Look at the blessed you and think of the many people who are in worse situation than you. You hear about them everyday in the news, in your emails and you can see them around you too--poverty stricken, loss of limbs, orphans, refugees, homelessness, and just can't enumerate the entire examples here. When I was at the convention the other day, I saw a paraplegic (and came across him a few times) and I looked at my children and they looked back at me with a look of someone who knew what I was going to say to them if I were to say it--be grateful, don't complain.
So be thankful to Allah that you are able to stand up and look at yourself in the mirror, by virtue of a huge blessing of the limbs from your Lord which you won't trade even for millions of dollars. If you thank Allah, Allah will give you more. Be patient, nothing happen but for a good reason. Move on, don't make the life of those around you miserable, make lots of du'a and just wait for that good thing to fall on your lap. It will come sooner than you think and most of the time in a very unexpected way, although sometimes you may not notice it. Allah's reward is tremendous for the patient one. InshaAllah.
And Allah knows best.
May Allah give you tawfiq. Ameen. Please don't forget us in your night prayers. Jazakallahu khairan.
Wassalaam
