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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum

Dear Friends

I pray that you are well.

The right of parents is from among the greatest of right after Allah's right and that of His Messenger, Allah bless him and grant him peace. Parents are to be magnified and honored. The lack of magnification of one's parents translates to a lack of magnification of Allah for the one who magnifies Allah knows that Allah ordered him to magnify his parents and to show goodness to them.

Allah says,

وَوَصَّيْنَا ٱلْإِنسَٰنَ بِوَٰلِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُۥ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍۢ وَفِصَٰلُهُۥ فِى عَامَيْنِ أَنِ ٱشْكُرْ لِى وَلِوَٰلِدَيْكَ إِلَىَّ ٱلْمَصِيرُ

And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.
(Qur'an Luqman 31:14)

Allah says,

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوٓاْ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلۡوَٲلِدَيۡنِ إِحۡسَـٰنًا‌ۚ إِمَّا يَبۡلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلۡڪِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوۡ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ۬ وَلَا تَنۡہَرۡهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوۡلاً۬ ڪَرِيمً۬ا (٢٣) وَٱخۡفِضۡ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ ٱلذُّلِّ مِنَ ٱلرَّحۡمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ٱرۡحَمۡهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِى صَغِيرً۬ا (٢٤

“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young."
(Qur’an Al-Isra' 17:23-24)

Allah expedites the effects of kindness to parents and maintaining the bonds of kinship in this world before the next. So, no one who shows kindness to his parents except that Allah causes his lifespan to be prolonged and that his children show kindness to him when he is old.

A person used to be bold towards his father to the extent that when he became angry he would drag his father out of the house until he reached the stairs of the house. When the person reached old age, his sons were harsh to him. His sons used to carry him and dragged him, sometimes even past that point that he dragged his father. He said to his sons, "I used to drag your grandfather to here (the stairs), so stop." To that the sons replied, "That was the principal, we are giving you more."

This is now happening: A man has been ill for a few years, pretty much bed ridden. No more friends and his children had literally abandoned him. And the story was he treated his parents very badly when they were alive. His wife asked him to repent for his sins but he was heedless. May Allah guide and forgive him and forgive and have mercy on his parents. Ameen.

Mistreatment of parents is a loan just as kind treatment of parents is a loan. If one mistreats his parents, one will be repaid with mistreatment. So, honor and be kind to your parents if you want kindness be shown to you when you become old and feeble.

May Allah grant us and our children righteousness and bless us with our children's righteousness. Ameen. Please don't forget us in your night prayers. JazakAllahu khairan.

And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam