In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
We send our children to school and insist that they work hard at school. If they achieve some good qualifications in their school years, more employment opportunities will open up in the future. Good jobs is often associated with a better standard of life and more security. But will it?
How much of this education helps to improve the moral fibre of our society and how much of this education promotes values such as respect, modesty, humility and piety? How many classes genuinely help to explain our purpose in life? Explain to us about our Creator? Tells us about the signs around us which lead to the truth or the teachings of the prophets?
The need for spiritual and moral education is amply demonstrated by the ills within our society. As we move more into a materialistic frame of mind we totally neglect our spiritual side leading to more disruptions within our personal and social lives. Society breaks down; the family unit breaks down as people become more distant. We rely on fantasy and entertainment, alcohol and drugs to drown out every remembrance and need of the soul inside us.
The fact remains that one day we will die and a new phase in our lives will begin. Scientific research or any other form of analysis can't explain this next phase. Instead we have to turn to other sources for this information and guidance. This is where religious guidance plays a vital role. It teaches us about the wrongs and rights; it encourages us to be of good character and actions; it teaches us about our purpose of life and what happens when we die; it teaches us about our creator and the relationship we should have with Him; it teaches that which is beyond human perception and can only be taught through divinely appointed teachers - the Prophets.
It is the duty of parents to protect their children from the Fire of Hell by teaching them Allah’s commands and prohibitions and Islamic manners (adab). It is the right of children to be brought up in accordance with the guidelines of Islam. In the Day of Judgment everybody will come after those people that are owed rights to them. Parents who did not fulfill the rights of their children will run away from their children, trying to save themselves from the consequences of this reality.
Allah Almighty says,
يَوْمَ يَفِرُّ ٱلْمَرْءُ مِنْ أَخِيهِ ﴿٣٤﴾ وَأُمِّهِۦ وَأَبِيهِ ﴿٣٥﴾ وَصَـٰحِبَتِهِۦ وَبَنِيهِ ﴿٣٦[Qur'an Abasa 80:34-36]
On the Day a man will flee from his brother (34) And his mother and his father (35) And his wife and his children, (36)
Parents should strive to cultivate in their children's hearts a deep love and respect for the Deen so that it is the central part of their adult life. And when they are confronted with choices, they can clearly tell the difference between right and wrong and inshaAllah act accordingly.
The Messenger of Allah, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said: “Act upon the obedience to Allah and avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and order your children to abide by the commandments of Allah and to avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and by that you protect yourselves and them from the Hellfire.”
"For a man to teach his child good adab is better than giving a sa (2 liters) of grain in charity."
"No father can give his child anything better than good manners." [Tirmidhi]
"Whoever desires to spite the jealous one, should teach his child good adab." Who is jealous of us? The Shaytan and his followers.
The best of you is he who has learnt the Qu'ran and then taught it." [Bukhari]
Teach your children Qur'an from early age. The first step is to make sure they can read the Qur'an properly and start memorizing. Find a good teacher for them. If you are an adult, you need to do this too (if you didn't get the opportunity to do it when you were a kid), so at least when you have your own children, you can teach them and be their model in this respect.
It is a well known fact that children do as parents do, not necessarily what they say. Children develop behaviors through observing their parents in day-to-day life. Every behavior that a parent engages in should be worthy of imitating because children will imitate it.
ا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ اللَّـهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ ﴿٦﴾ يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا لَا تَعْتَذِرُوا الْيَوْمَ ۖ إِنَّمَا تُجْزَوْنَ مَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ ﴿٧[Qur'an At-Tahrim 66:6-7]
O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded. (6) O you who have disbelieved, make no excuses that Day. You will only be recompensed for what you used to do. (7)
May Allah grant us good in this life and the Hereafter and save us and our families from Hellfire. Ameen.
Please don't forget us in your night prayers. Jazakallahu khairan.
And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam
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