In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
Allah Subḥanahu wa Ta'ala (Glorified and Exalted be He) says:
وَمَا خَلَقْتُ الْجِنَّ وَالْإِنسَ إِلَّا لِيَعْبُدُونِ ﴿٥٦(Qur'an, Adh-Dhariyyat 51:56)
And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me. (56)
A worshiper of Allah may fall into one of these three categories:
1) The one who only worships Allah when he is in difficulty
It takes a colossal tragedy, a serious illness, or loss of resources for this person to set aside her pride and ask Allah for relief. Allah describes this type of person in the Qur'an (interpretation of meaning):
“It is He who enables you to travel on land and sea until, when you are in ships and they sail with them by a good wind and they rejoice therein, there comes a storm wind and the waves come upon them from everywhere and they assume that they are surrounded, supplicating Allah, sincere to Him in religion, 'If You should save us from this, we will surely be among the thankful.' But when He saves them, at once they commit injustice upon the earth without right…” (Qur'an, Yunus 10:22-23)
He witnesses Allah's miracles and help when he desperately calls on Him. Even then, once his problems are over, he goes back to thinking he doesn't really need Allah.
2) The one who only worships Allah when he is blessed with happiness and plenty
This is the kind of person who falls apart when something difficult comes his way. He throws his hands up and utters those two dangerous words: “why me?” He questions Allah's motives, thinking and perhaps even saying why is Allah doing this to me?
Allah describes this person in the Qur'an (interpretation of meaning):
“And of the people is he who worships Allah on an edge. If he is touched by good, he is reassured by it; but if he is struck by trial, he turns on his face [to the other direction]. He has lost [this] world and the Hereafter. That is what is the manifest loss.” (Qur'an, Al-Hajj 22:11)
This person believes he is inherently entitled to ease. Any difficulty he experiences makes him question his belief in Allah.
3) The one who worships Allah in both times of hardship and in times of ease
Regardless of ease or hardship, this type of worshiper doesn't allow his faith to waver. Hardships make him turn inward, seeking comfort and help from the Most Merciful. Blessings make him become grateful, sharing his resources with others and continuously praising his Lord for His bounties.
Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said:
“How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for his affairs are all good, and this applies to no one but the believer. If something good happens to him, he is thankful for it and that is good for him. If something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.” (Muslim)
Every believer's goal should be to worship Allah in this manner. Regardless of his circumstances or emotional state, a believer finds a way to turn himself fully to the worship of Allah.
Allah Almighty says (interpretation of meaning),
"And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient, (155) Who, when disaster strikes them, say, "Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return." (156) Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided. (157) (Qur'an, Al-Baqarah 2:155-157)
Whether you have faced the loss of your loved ones, your wealth, your safety, or your sense of self worth, there are certain things you need to keep in mind in order to create an atmosphere of resilience, strength and patience.
The following are five key components to creating an environment and state of mind that supports spiritual resilience.
1. Accepting your humanness
We are not emotionless beings. We experience very intense emotional states. We have the potential to accomplish great things and to reach high states of faith, but we are also susceptible to pain, sadness, and anger. We have to accept that feeling these things isn't a form of weakness; it's just the reality of how we were created.
One of the best examples of this is the story of Maryam (peace be upon her) when she was in labor with Isa (peace be upon him). Allah Almighty says (interpretation of meaning):
“And the pains of childbirth drove her to the trunk of a palm tree. She said: Oh, I wish I had died before this and was in oblivion, forgotten.” (Qur'an, Maryam 19:23)
Allah didn't respond to her cries by harshly saying, “Do not wish for death!” or “Be more patient!” Rather, it was said to her out of a great and wonderful mercy:
“…Do not grieve; your Lord has provided beneath you a stream. And shake toward you the trunk of the palm tree; it will drop upon you ripe, fresh dates. So eat and drink and be contented.” (Qur'an, Maryam 19:24-26)
How merciful Allah is to have shown us such a human and authentic example of a woman who was in so much pain that she uttered her wish that she had died. And keep in mind, this was not just any woman: it was Maryam (peace be upon him), the best and most righteous of all the believing women in history. Allah demonstrates to us how He responded with assurance, mercy, and love: “Do not grieve.”
Allah created us and understands that we have great weaknesses and that we are flawed and imperfect. Even the greatest men and women were human; they grieved just as we do, they felt with just as much intensity as we feel. And yes, they did and said things they regretted in times of pain.
So even if you say or do something you regret, Allah is the Forgiving. As long as you're alive, you still have the chance to redeem yourself. You still have the chance to reclaim the patience and constancy that you thought were lost to you.
Accept that you are human and you will make mistakes, and you will sometimes feel low. Only when you accept this can you really work towards bettering yourself.
2. Using the intensity of your emotion to worship Allah better
Once you accept your humanness and stop pushing away your emotions as though they're poisonous, you can begin to understand that the intensity of your emotions can be used to worship Allah in a deeper and more fulfilling way.
When you're experiencing sadness and grief, complain of your sadness to Allah, like Ya'qub (peace be upon him) did when he was devastated at the years he spent apart from his son Yusuf (peace be upon him). He said, as recorded in the Qur'an (interpretation of meaning):
“I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah.” (Qur'an, Yusuf 12:86)
When you feel frustrated and hopeless, and it seems that all the doors of opportunity are closing in your face, turn to Allah, Al-Fattah, to open the doors for you. When the Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam and his people were being persecuted in Makkah, he went to the city of Ta'if to try to find some allies. Instead of finding allies, he was rejected and violently expelled from the city. On top of all that, it was in the same year that he lost his beloved wife Khadijah, and his uncle Abu Talib who was protecting him. In that moment, it seemed that all the doors were closing…so he turned to Allah using a very powerful supplication:
“O Allah! I complain to You of my weakness, my scarcity of resources and the humiliation I have been subjected to by the people. O Most Merciful of those who are merciful. O Lord of the weak and my Lord too. To whom have you entrusted me? To a distant person who receives me with hostility? Or to an enemy to whom you have granted authority over my affair? So long as You are not angry with me, I do not care. Your favor is of a more expansive relief to me. I seek refuge in the light of Your Face by which all darkness is dispelled and every affair of this world and the next is set right, lest Your anger or Your displeasure descends upon me. I desire Your pleasure and satisfaction until You are pleased. There is no power and no might except by You.”
Even when you're happy, fulfilled, and blessed with abundance, use that state to fervently thank Allah for His favors upon you and give generously to others who don't have access to the same resources. Prophet Sulayman (peace be upon him) was blessed with a kingdom that was unsurpassed. He not only ruled a kingdom of humans, he also ruled the kingdom of animals and jinn. His gratitude is recorded in the Qur'an as a beautiful du'a:
“My Lord! Inspire and bestow upon me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favors which You have bestowed on me and on my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds that will please You, and admit me by Your Mercy among Your righteous slaves.” (Qur'an, An-Naml 27:19)
Throughout our rich history, we see examples of prophets and righteous people in all kinds of emotional states – but what made them beloved to Allah is that they always used their particular circumstances to worship Him in a more holistic and meaningful way.
Every state that we find ourselves in – whether happy, sad, angry or excited – can be used to worship Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) better. But in order for this to work, we have to consciously be checked-in to our emotions. We have to understand what we're feeling and why. Only when we have this kind of self-awareness, can we turn our hearts fully towards our Creator.
3. Connecting with the Qur'an
Allah says:
“…Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Qur'an, Ar-Ra'd 13:28)
and
“O mankind, there has to come to you instruction from your Lord and healing for what is in the breasts and guidance and mercy for the believers.” (Qur'an, Yunus 10:57)
Many of us turn to the people in our closest circles to help heal our wounds, comfort us in times of distress, and celebrate our victories. To us, the Qur'an is a theoretical source of guidance, but not a part of our daily lives.
In order to build spiritual and emotional resilience, the Qur'an needs to be an integral part of our lives. The joy that comes from truly connecting to the words of Allah is unlike any other fleeting pleasure. Only those who have taken the Qur'an with them as a companion on this path understand the constancy of happiness and relief it brings.
4. Counting your blessings
Regardless of how difficult your circumstances may be, you are blessed. If you have lost your wealth, perhaps your family is still with you. If you have lost your health, perhaps your faith is as strong as ever. If you have lost your loved ones, perhaps Allah has blessed you with the material resources and means to help others.
Sometimes it's difficult to see the glass half full, or to see the silver lining. But if you look closely enough, you'll find that, even in your darkest and most difficult moments, Allah has blessed you with so much. Even a difficulty that you hate can actually turn out to be a blessing. It's just as Allah says in the Qur'an:
“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (Qur'an, Al-Baqarah 2:216)
It's incredibly important for your state of mind, to take the time to consciously and thoroughly remember everything that Allah has blessed you with. Write it down in a gratitude journal every day. Make it a part of your routine to reflect on both the big and small blessings you have in your life. This will not only put a difficult situation into perspective, it will also do the following:
Your overall happiness will increase. Research has shown that the more actively grateful you are, the happier you are.
You are rewarded by Allah for your gratitude to Him. Acknowledging His favors and blessings is a form of worship. One sincere, truthful “Alhamdulillah” is worth more than a mountain of gold in the sight of Allah.
The more grateful you are, the more Allah will give you. As He says in the Qur'an:
“And remember! your Lord caused to be declared (publicly): 'If you are grateful, I will add more (favors) for you'.” (Qur'an, Ibrahim 14:7)
To sum up: gratitude makes you happy. Allah grants you good deeds for your gratitude. Gratitude causes Allah to increase His favors upon you.
5. Seeking help
Sometimes we think patience means keeping all our difficulties to ourselves. But Allah hasn't created us in a vacuum, He has created us as members of a family, a community. Your mind and body are a trust given to you by Allah. So knowing when to seek help to take care of yourself is a way of honoring that trust from Him.
Our Lord, grant us from Yourself mercy and prepare for us from our affair right guidance. Ameen.
Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'ala aalihi wa sahbihi wassallam.
And Allah knows best and He alone grant success.
Wassalaam
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