How Do You Correct Your Parents Or Elders Respectfully?

How do you correct your parents or elders respectfully? 

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Before the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was enjoining good and forbidding evil he had one of the most perfect manners. What people knew about him, before anything else, was that he was kind, courteous, respectful, loving, merciful, etc. 

Before you correct someone about what they maybe saying or doing or believing wrong, you  want to build a relationship where you are not seen as someone talking down to them, but you, as a young person, as someone who respect them, acknowledge the good in them and don't just see a fault. 

You don't want to be defined by what you are doing wrong, but as whole person. So why don't you learn to do that to others --- see them as a whole person and maybe there will be a kind and gentle opportunity to bring up something that is wrong. Even that, you don't have to bring it up directly. There are many other ways. You don't make them feel bad. 

Gentleness and merciful are part of the attribute of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. We need to bring that to our dealings with people especially our parents.

مُّحَمَّدٌ رَّسُولُ ٱللَّهِ ۚ وَٱلَّذِينَ مَعَهُۥٓ أَشِدَّآءُ عَلَى ٱلْكُفَّارِ رُحَمَآءُ بَيْنَهُمْ ۖ تَرَىٰهُمْ رُكَّعًا سُجَّدًا يَبْتَغُونَ فَضْلًا مِّنَ ٱللَّهِ وَرِضْوَٰنًا ۖ سِيمَاهُمْ فِى وُجُوهِهِم مِّنْ أَثَرِ ٱلسُّجُودِ

Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah; and those with him are forceful against the disbelievers, merciful among themselves. You see them bowing and prostrating [in prayer], seeking bounty from Allah and [His] pleasure. Their mark is on their faces from the trace of prostration.

(Surah Fath 48:29)

May Allah grant us sound understanding of His religion. Aameen.