بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
Parents have the responsibility to raise their children well. One thing all parents have in common is that children will challenge their authority. They can rebel, they can act out in school, they can act out at home, they can embarrass you in public. The way you respond to your child will determine how long your child will be defiant towards you. Most children just want to be noticed and want to be attention grabbers. Some children choose to do it the right way; while other children do it to draw attention by any means necessary. Showing love and compassion early in their lives will earn you their respect very early in their lives.
To help overcome many behavior problems, discipline your children by teaching and training them very early in life. This is where it is necessary to last for decades to come. Throughout your lifetime chances are you will continue to face the challenges of parenthood even after your children are no longer under your roof. Parenting is a "lifelong" commitment and it does not go away just because your children have reached 18 or 21. Just because your children have moved out of your home, it doesn't really mean they are truly on their own. Though they might think they don't need you anymore at that time, they do need your guidance more than ever.
Many parents fall in the wrong and that harms the children as well as themselves. Raising children well is never a piece of cake and if one does not have patience, one can get angry with one's children at any time of the day. But we cannot get angry with our children because of our impatience. We must restrain our anger.
The only time you can get angry with your children is if the anger is for the sake of Allah Almighty, and only if you know how to express your anger in a way that is pleasing to Allah. Otherwise you will wind up wronging your children with your tongue and your other limbs.
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him,
To be a good parent, you must yourself have a good discipline, lest you will wrong your child, by your bad examples and bad actions. So, before we discipline our children, we should discipline ourselves first and don't act out.
Your children are an asset to you and not a liability. If you raise them well, by that it means you raise them to know their Lord, and they act upon such knowledge, you will continue to benefit until the Day of Judgment.
Allah Almighty says,
Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that Allah's Messenger, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said:
Teaching your children to know their Lord should be your foremost goal for them. May Allah grant us tawfiq and our success can only come from Allah alone. Ameen.
Please don't forget us in your night prayers. JazakAllahu khairan.
And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam
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World's Model Parent
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
Parents have the responsibility to raise their children well. One thing all parents have in common is that children will challenge their authority. They can rebel, they can act out in school, they can act out at home, they can embarrass you in public. The way you respond to your child will determine how long your child will be defiant towards you. Most children just want to be noticed and want to be attention grabbers. Some children choose to do it the right way; while other children do it to draw attention by any means necessary. Showing love and compassion early in their lives will earn you their respect very early in their lives.
To help overcome many behavior problems, discipline your children by teaching and training them very early in life. This is where it is necessary to last for decades to come. Throughout your lifetime chances are you will continue to face the challenges of parenthood even after your children are no longer under your roof. Parenting is a "lifelong" commitment and it does not go away just because your children have reached 18 or 21. Just because your children have moved out of your home, it doesn't really mean they are truly on their own. Though they might think they don't need you anymore at that time, they do need your guidance more than ever.
Many parents fall in the wrong and that harms the children as well as themselves. Raising children well is never a piece of cake and if one does not have patience, one can get angry with one's children at any time of the day. But we cannot get angry with our children because of our impatience. We must restrain our anger.
The only time you can get angry with your children is if the anger is for the sake of Allah Almighty, and only if you know how to express your anger in a way that is pleasing to Allah. Otherwise you will wind up wronging your children with your tongue and your other limbs.
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him,
That a man said to the Prophet, Allah bless him and grant him peace: "Counsel me", so he, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said: "Do not become angry." The man repeated [his request for counsel] several times, and he, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said: "Do not become angry."[Bukhari and Muslim]
To be a good parent, you must yourself have a good discipline, lest you will wrong your child, by your bad examples and bad actions. So, before we discipline our children, we should discipline ourselves first and don't act out.
Your children are an asset to you and not a liability. If you raise them well, by that it means you raise them to know their Lord, and they act upon such knowledge, you will continue to benefit until the Day of Judgment.
Allah Almighty says,
إِنَّا نَحْنُ نُحْىِ ٱلْمَوْتَىٰ وَنَكْتُبُ مَا قَدَّمُوا۟ وَءَاثَـٰرَهُمْ ۚ وَكُلَّ شَىْءٍ أَحْصَيْنَـٰهُ فِىٓ إِمَامٍ مُّبِينٍ[Qur'an Ya-Sin 36:12]
Indeed, it is We who bring the dead to life and record what they have put forth and what they left behind, and all things We have enumerated in a clear register.
Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that Allah's Messenger, Allah bless him and grant him peace, said:
When a human being dies, all of his deeds are terminated except for three types: an ongoing sadaqah (charity), a knowledge (of Islam) from which others benefit, and a righteous child who makes du'a (supplication) for him.[Muslim and others].
Teaching your children to know their Lord should be your foremost goal for them. May Allah grant us tawfiq and our success can only come from Allah alone. Ameen.
Please don't forget us in your night prayers. JazakAllahu khairan.
And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam
Related Archives:
World's Model Parent
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