بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful, Most Compassionate
Assalaamu alaykum
Dear Friends
I pray that you are well.
One of our responsibilities as parents is to take control of our children from greed for food. Teach them manners of eating from an early age.
* He picks up and eat food only with his right hand (even a Big Mac)
* He says Bismillah when he picks up the food
* He eats from that which is nearest to him
* He should not stare at his food or at the other people present (not a time for pictures and selfie)
* He should not start eating before others -- should not begin until the parents (or most righteous or oldest person at the table) begin
* He should take small bites of food, chew it properly and then swallow
* He should not eat one mouthful after another without pause
* He should not get food on his hands and clothes
* He should be made to get use to eating simple foods
* He should be made to dislike eating large quantities
* He should be made to enjoy to give best food to others
* His body should not be allowed to grow fat because it will be hard for him to renounce indulgence. A lot of the obesity is simply from overeating. Children should get used to simple diet from an early age.
* He should sit while drinking. Take 3 small sips initially.
This is the Sunnah. If you find yourself not following this sunnah, you can start getting into the habit so your children can pick up. It is important that you teach these manners to your children from an early age, and inshaAllah they will carry this adab throughout their lives and teach them to their children. If you don't do that, it will be a great struggle for them to change bad habits when they grow up, and they might never change. How many adults you see eating, indoor or outdoor, eating with no manners at all -- they eat with both hands, food all over their hands and clothes, they talk with their mouths full, they eat/drink while walking, etc! Chances are they were not taught these manners. You don't want to be blamed for your children's bad manners.
On the authority of Abu Masood Uqbah ibn Aamr Al-Ansaari, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, ‘From the words of the previous prophets that the people still find are: If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.’” [Bukhari]
Whenever a good trait or action in your child manifest itself, the child should be admired and rewarded with something which gives him joy (with a smile, etc.) and should be praised in front of others. Likewise, when once in a while when he did something bad, it is best to pretend not to notice it and not to bring it to attention of others, and never to reveal to him that it is something others may be bold enough to do. Exposure of such deeds may cause them to grow embolden and no longer cares when it is made public. You can see adults who don't mind doing bad in public because they have become bold.
'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said, "The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was neither coarse nor loud. He used to say, "The best of you is the one who has the best character."
Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "I was sent to perfect good character."
May Allah grant us tawfiq and grant and our families good manners and noble character. Ameen.
Please don't forget us in your night prayers. Jazakum Allahu khairan.
And Allah knows best.
Wassalaam
Related Archives
Manners of Eating
Manners of Drinking
Eating the Lawful
http://journey2allah.blogspot.com/2011/05/eat-to-live.html
Food is your test until Day of Judgment
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