Dutiful to Parents Even if They are Unjust
One of the scholars was seen weeping at the death of his mother, and when asked why he wept, he said, "Why shouldn't I cry when one of the doors of Paradise is closed for me." While his mother was alive, a door of Paradise was opened for him, and once she passed away, it was closed
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Whoever comes into the morning and both his parents are pleased with him, he comes into the morning with two doors of Paradise open to him. Whoever goes into the evening and both parents are pleased with him, he goes into the evening with two doors of Paradise open for him. And if he has just one parent, then one door of Paradise is open to him. Whoever goes into the evening with both parents are angry with him, he goes into the evening with two doors of Hellfire open for him. And if he has just one parent, then one door is open for him.” After realizing this huge position of parents that the Prophet (ﷺ) was telling the Companions about, one of the Companions asked, "Even if the parents were oppressive to them?" The Prophet (ﷺ) replied, "Even if they oppress the child, even if they oppress the child, even if they oppress the child.
[Bayhaqi, Dailami, Mishkat Masabih]
Imagine a child who passes away in a state where his parents are pleased with him; he has two doors of Paradise he could choose to enter. Imagine a child who died in a state where his parents are angry with him; he is doomed.
Put your parents in the forefront before your career, traveling for leisure, before friends, before amassing wealth. Make a point to ask them if they are pleased with you. So, if they are not, you have time to remedy it. For those who have lost their parents, make du'a for them day and night and give charity on their behalf.
It is not a condition that your parents be nice to you before you are nice to them. You still be nice to them, and if you fear harm for yourself, then you do that from a distance.
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